Remember when we were kids and we asked our parents for something and the reply was 'we'll see?' It was absolutely the worst! You KNEW it was a veiled 'no can do.'
Now that we've grown up, not much has changed. Parents might not say 'we'll see' anymore, but we do. Our friends do.
When someone asked me to join him for a movie last week, I knew I didn't want to go. I don't enjoy his company, it's taxing to talk to him and he doesn't smile a lot. People who don't smile piss me off. The movie would not have been a date, if it was, saying no would've been easier. Then I'd have a real reason, like "I'm not interested." This was just a friendly hang-out. You have to be a genius to lie your way out of a hang-out session in this day and age. If I say I'm working, they will somehow know that I'm not, if I say I'm out of town, they will know. Everyone just knows everything. Take a bow - facebook, gtalk and bbm.
So I said - "We'll see, I'll let you know?" I was buying time, trying to think of a good reason to say no, a good non-hurtful reason. In the end though, I didn't let him know. I just pretended like I forgot. Bitch.
We think that things like 'we'll see' or 'maybe' are safe answers, but they must suck for the person at the receiving end. I've been on that end. They're worse than an outright no. A no is definite, it prevents wondering, questioning and limbo. Limbo sucks. A no is closure. I respect people who know what they want and more importantly, what they don't want.
Perhaps this is a good answer :
"No, I can't commit at the moment. I want to keep that night open for something incredibly sexy and fun. You won't be invited to that. But if it falls through, I'll call you and we'll do our stupid movie."